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5 Ways to Discover Your Skills and Start a New Career After 50

Skills After 50The first phase in preparing for a job interview is to gain a better understanding of your own interests and single out what you bring to the table. This is a critical first step.

You will be surprised how many opportunities you will have to showcase your unique skills during the interview. These skills will help you to get hired. Thinking about this ahead of time will help you present a confident attitude and image.

Skills are simply the things you learn and do that enable you to perform certain tasks. By knowing your skills, you will also be able to communicate them to others when you do things like compose your resume, consider a job opening and interview for a job. Later, this is helpful when you create your performance goals with your supervisor, ask for a raise, apply for a promotion or even change careers

There are five ways to identify your career skills that will make you stand out.

Make a List of Your Past and Current Jobs

Make a complete list of all your positions including the company name, title and years worked for each position. This is the same information that you typically list on your resume, in chronological order.

Jot Down the Tasks Associated with Each Job

A task is simply your job duties or responsibilities that you carry out and get paid for. Describe, in detail, everything you did in each job. This will help you in the next section with what you accomplished while performing each task.

List Accomplishments

What were your biggest accomplishments with those tasks? Look at each task and describe any accomplishments that had an impact on the department or organization. What was the problem, the result and how did you improve the situation in any way? This is an accomplishment.

Identify Your Strengths and Passion by Answering These Important Questions

First, what are your three greatest strengths? What do you enjoy doing? What skills do you use regularly? What activities do you do that make you feel strong? What do you find easy to do that others find difficult? Finally, what do you naturally find yourself wanting to spend time doing?

Compare To The Top 10 Skills

Once you identify your skills, strengths and passions, it’s good to know if you are in alignment with what employers are looking for. Here are 10 skills that most employers want.

Verbal Communication: Ability to verbally express your ideas clearly, concisely, and confidently.

Teamwork: Ability to work cohesively within a group.

Initiative and Self-motivation: Ability to act on initiative, identify opportunities and practice in putting forward ideas and solutions.

Written communication: Ability to express yourself clearly in writing.

Internet Communication: Ability to communicate on the Internet, including sending emails.

Flexibility: Adaptability to changing situations and priorities.

Problem Solving: Ability to gather information, establish facts and problem solve.

Drive: Determination to get things done, make things happen and look for ways to make things better.

Planning and Organizing: Ability to plan activities and carry them out.

Time Management: Ability to manage time, prioritize tasks and meet deadlines.

Now that you have identified your skills, you are able to create your own skills checklist. You will never be in doubt again about who you are, and you will specifically present and communicate your unique skills – with confidence – to help you prepare for that interview and get hired!

What skills and strengths make you unique? In doing this exercise, did you discover that you had any new or overlooked skills? Why do you think you are a good candidate for a job in your 50’s? Please join the conversation.

To your success,

For a complete Color Analysis, including a FREE color palette of your customized colors, contact Brenda at brenda@firstimpressionsmatter.com or call (707) 648-7991 to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.

The 5 Natural Body Silhouettes …Tips to Dress Your Body Type!

Do you know your body shape? This is the first step in feeling good in your clothes and building your personal style. It’s important to make sure your clothes fit in proportion to your body shape.

Not knowing your body portions and what you need to adjust or camouflage will make you self conscious of your body and can lower your self-esteem.

Explore the 5 different body shapes and identify your body type.

Hourglass, Rectangle, Apple/Oval, Inverted Triangle, and Pear/Rectangle

Hourglass – Curves, curves and more curves!

Your shoulders are relatively wide as your hips/thighs and your waist is distinctly narrower than your shoulders and hips/thighs.

hourglass shape







body shapes

Rectangle – Shoulders are as wide as your hips/thighs. Your waist is as wide as or just narrower than your shoulders and hips/thighs.

Rectangle shape








Apple/Oval – Shoulders are narrower  than your hips/thighs: from the front view, your waist appears the same width or wider than your shoulders/hips.

apple-oval shape

oval shape







Inverted Triangle – Your shoulders are wider than your waist and hips/thighs.

inverted shape








pear shape




pear shape clothes


Click on comments and answer the following questions. Did you figure out what body shape you are? Did you find out you were a different body shape than you thought you were? Will you start to buy clothes based on your shape you are now? I look forward to hearing from you.

To your beauty,

6 Feel Good Gifts for Mother’s Day!

From the best smelling and soothing candles to an invigorating Hot Stone Pedicure, these tactics are ones that I certainly enjoy, and can do over and over again.

Be Happy Be Fabulous Be You T-Shirt!

Vouluspa candles! Natural wick and soothing scents!


The best foot massager with heat!


Hot Stone Pedicure! Just heavenly.

All natural ingredients - my skin has never been better by using these products

Drunk Elephant Skin Care











Indian Springs Spa in Napa!

A hug or spending time with your kids is the best gift for Mother’s Day. But if they are living on another coast and your mother is no longer living, I think of ways to be happy on Mother’s Day and continue to feel good.

Have a very Happy Mother’s Day!

Click the reply button and tell me How are you spending your Mother’s Day this year? What are you doing to feel good? 

Is Your Personal Brand Working for You?


YourBrandHave you ever thought about how people perceive you? What does your reputation stand for? How do you want to be seen? How do you know when you make a memorable impression on people?

These days, everything you do in the public impacts your brand and your professional success. If you are interested in seeking a new job, being promoted, or making a sale for your business, make sure you are being perceived the way you want.

I remember interviewing for a job. I withdrew since I did not want to spend extra time working after hours, and it wasn’t a good fit for me. Two months later, I received a call from the same Vice President who interviewed me. He said that another position was available, and he wanted to know if I was interested. He said he was impressed with me when we had met previously, and he never forgot me.

So how did I leave a memorable impression? It was based on the following three things:

  • My brand was aligned with the way I wanted people to perceive me. My skills and knowledge in the Human Resources field were valuable to the organization and department. They could see my professionalism and that I was customer-service oriented. They needed all of these factors for the position.
  • I made a connection with the interviewer. This means they saw me as a good fit with the culture. They trusted me, and we were able to build a relationship. These factors are also critical in the position.
  • When I withdrew from the position the first time, I made sure to send a nice thank you note within 24 hours and wished them well with the search. They noticed my follow-up skills and integrity.

All of these factors left a memorable first impression on the interviewers; and in turn, I received a job that was a better fit for me through the “Hidden Job Market”. This means the job was never posted, and I had no competition. This is the ideal way to land a job.

I ask you – is your personal brand leaving the memorable first impression with people you want it to? If so, what three things help your brand leave a great impression? If not, how do you start building your brand? Join the conversation and leave a comment below!

To your beauty,

For a complete Color Analysis, including a FREE color palette of your customized colors, contact Brenda at brenda@firstimpressionsmatter.com or call (707) 648-7991 to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.

Jump Into Spring: 3 Ways to Boost Your Style!

spring colors

It is imperative to maintain an up-to-date look with your appearance, especially if you’re still working, job hunting, speaking in front of groups, or making pitches.

I’ve worked with hiring managers who did not select people due to how they looked. They said they looked old and outdated with their hairstyle or clothing, and sometimes called them “frumpy”. The candidate may have had the skills to do the job, but unable to show that they would “fit in” with the department by maintaining a professional look.

Let me be clear, you don’t have to spend a lot of money to freshen up your wardrobe! You can make a big difference with a small adjustment like adding an accessory or a new color, or even by choosing a current hairstyle, in order to keep your look fresh!

Check out these ideas to boost your style for Spring.

Add color to your wardrobe

You’ll be surprised at how wearing color can change your mood, boost your well-being and make you feel more confident.

Try adding one of the new season colors to your wardrobe. They include teal, dark pink (almost a hot pink), blush (off white with a hint of pink), mustard (yellow), and orange.

Florals and prints are a big trend this year, as well as wearing florals with florals, and mixing florals and prints together. I prefer to wear florals and solids together so it doesn’t feel like you can see me coming! But find what looks good on you, and what you feel good wearing. Try stepping out of the box and mix florals and solids, or prints and solids. Or jump into the trend of wearing prints and florals together. There are even floral sneakers that are all the rave.

Whatever you do, add something different to your wardrobe with a splash of color like a yellow or blue handbag. You will see how it pops a bit of color into your outfit as well as how it makes you feel better.

Create new outfits from your closet

First, pull clothes out of your closet that you no longer wear. Keep pieces that are functional and work for your specific needs.

When creating outfits, be conscious of when you will wear them–weekend wear, work, running errands, client meetings or a night on the town.

Start with basic pieces. For instance, a pair of jeans go great with a colorful top and jacket. See how many tops, blouses and jackets you can mix together to make different outfits! If you have flowing, button-up, tunic, or plain white blouses, mix and match them with diffferent pants for a variety of outfits!

Skirts or dresses for the season are great to have as basics in your closet as well. Dresses are so easy and comfortable. It’s only one piece, and all you need is a layering jacket or sweater. See how many outfits you can create in this category. Make sure to coordinate colors and try a floral, leopard or print dress. You might be amazed at how good it looks on you.

Accessorize, accessorize, accessorize

You’ll be surprised how one accessory added to an outfit can make you look up-to-date. The trend for accessories this year is bold, flashy, bright and modern. I do recommend you stay within your own style unless you want to try something different. My style is classic, traditional with a hint of bold, so I feel comfortable with adding a piece of bold jewelry to an outfit.

Shoes are popping up in flashy silver and metallic hues, and the peep-toe is making a come back.

Oversized and dramatic sunglasses are a big trend, but make sure to find the right shape for your face.

Statement jewelry is all the rave. Chokers are back in style and should be chunky and oversized. Also try adding long and oversized earrings. And large necklaces from gems to feathers are dressing up necklines.

How do you plan to boost your style this spring? Is there a new color you plan to add to your wardrobe? Join the conversation and leave your comments below.

To your beauty,

For a complete Color Analysis, including a FREE color palette of your customized colors, contact Brenda at brenda@firstimpressionsmatter.com or call (707) 648-7991 to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.

Get Hired After 60: 7 Tips to Make a Fabulous First Impression

Get Hired

It takes just seven seconds.

I’m sure you are already aware of how important first impressions are. But you may not be aware that the first impression is only a seven-second window of the initial meeting.

This means that when it comes to an interviewing situation, you need to act quickly to make a fabulous first impression. To get remembered and hired, here are seven tips for those first seven seconds and how to keep that positive impression going during the interview.

Look Good

“When you look good, you feel good.” This has always been my motto and it’s true. You will automatically walk taller, and look more confident, more comfortable and happier.

Appearances really matter in first impressions. This is the first information someone has about you and plays a bigger role in the first meeting than in later ones.

Dress the part and project a professional presence. Employers are seeking people who exude a sense of poise, confidence and competence. Be sure to wear a touch of color – for example a black matching outfit with a red blouse. Red symbolizes confidence and power.

What is your style? This matters, too. A person can usually figure out by your clothes if you have a serious, fun, traditional or progressive look. Your style tells an instant story about you. So, it’s important to make sure to project your story the way you want it to be told. You are your own walking billboard.

It’s important to point out that you don’t have to be good-looking to look good. Beauty is nice, but confidence is what matters. I was once hired based on the confidence that I projected in the interview. My boss said that she was very impressed and wished she had my confidence. As a result, she felt confident that I could do the job.

When you look good, you will feel good and project a positive image that shows your style, poise, and comfort in your own skin.

Be Present

Walk tall, maintain eye contact, smile and present a firm handshake.

Stay in the moment and listen to the interviewer intently with eye contact. This gives the interviewer the indication that you are focused on the conversation and interested. Focus on what’s being said.

At times, you can use the same information in your answers. Usually the person is giving you information about the position, along with what kind of person they are looking for to fill the role. Making eye contact and nodding makes the interviewer feel comfortable with you.

Don’t forget to smile. A smile represents that you are happy, positive and approachable. This is an invitation to the interviewer to make eye contact.

The handshake impacts your initial impression and should be moderately firm, but not so heavy that the person’s hand is hurting. The firm handshake is seen as more confident and assertive.

Show Your Energy and Ability to Adapt to Change

Employers really do want to hire older workers, but are concerned about their energy level and ability to change focus at a moment’s notice.

Even though at this age we are much calmer than when we were younger, you must show that you still have it – your energy that is. Your energy includes how much you talk, how fast and how loud. You can still have a calming nature, but be involved in conversations for new ideas and thinking.

Competition is fierce and employers are always trying to keep up and think of faster and more innovative ways of doing things. Be involved. When speaking to people, “lean in” or forward. This shows your interest and energy as well.

Employers are also under the impression that we are stuck in our ways and don’t want to change. Show how flexible you are. If you’ve worked for more than one company, that’s a good thing nowadays and shows how resilient you are.

Have a Conversation, Not an Interview

Forget the word interview and think of the time being spent with the interviewer as a conversation. This creates an entirely different mindset. Get to know the interviewer and show interest in what the person is saying.

The interviewer is trying to determine if you are the right “fit” for the position and the company. Yes, your skills are important, but it’s evident that you have the skills because you passed the phone interview. Employers want to make sure you will be able to get along with the immediate team and staff at the company. Do you fit in? Do they feel comfortable with you? Do they like you? This is why having a conversation and getting to know people is important.

Make a Connection 

People are comfortable working with someone who has similar interests, lifestyle or who knows some of the same people. For example, I knew a past employee of a company I interviewed with and the interviewer was very fond of her. I also commented on my potential boss’s picture of her granddaughter, and she was so excited that I noticed it hanging on the wall. She proceeded to talk another five minutes about her.

Of course, she couldn’t ask me any questions about my family since that is illegal, but by openly giving her some personal information about my own daughter, she immediately felt we had similar interests with our children.

You can also look around the room and find any pictures that you can comment about to generate a conversation and connection. Show interest in the interviewer as a person, since people like to talk about themselves and want to work with someone with whom they feel they can connect.

Prove Your Worth without Mentioning Salary

Always have prepared questions to ask the interviewer, team and hiring manager. Also, a very important thing to do is to bring any supporting documents to the interview that showcase your accomplishments.

For example, if the position requires you to create a new process, bring the document where you performed that process at another company. Be prepared to leave it with the company and remove any confidential information.

Prove why you are the most qualified and get hired!

How about you? What tips have you used to make a fabulous first impression for an interview? How have you taken steps to improve your first impression during the interview? Please join the conversation.


To your beauty,

For a complete Color Analysis, including a FREE color palette of your customized colors, contact Brenda at brenda@firstimpressionsmatter.com or call (707) 648-7991 to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.

Favorite 6 Biggest Trends of the Oscars 2017 Red Carpet

I love watching the “Red Carpet” fashion events of award shows and this years’ 2017 Oscars red carpet was no exception.

I expected more vibrant colors, but the climate was more neutral and subdued than recent ones. Still it was a great variety of fashion. Here are some of my favorites:

Join the conversation and leave a comment to let me who were your favorites?

Viola Davis dressed to win. Red, my favorite color is a winner! Beautiful and wearing it with confidence.

Although Robin Roberts is not an actress and is an anchor on Good Morning America, I had to add her to my list. She looked so stunning in this GOLD dress. Beautiful and glowing!








Taraji P. Henson is so beautiful dressed like old Hollywood Glamour. Gorgeous!

Kristen had the hour glass figure with this dress. Love it!

Chrissy Teigen look beautiful as always!

Halle’s hair was so distracting that I could not look at the dress. She was NOT my best dressed of the night. Sorry Halle.

RED: Is It Your Color? 3 Tips To Say “YES” to Red!

Valentine’s Day was on February 14th and RED is a popular color worn by millions of people on that day – but it’s not just for Valentine’s Day! I receive many questions regarding the color red and thought this would be an ideal time to talk about it.

Say “YES” to Red!

If you’re feeling at all hesitant about wearing red or wondering HOW to wear it, read this article and say “YES” to wearing red with confidence!

1) Is red right for your personality?

It just so happens that red is my favorite color and I wear it often in many different ways. Either as an accent color or dress, pant, coat, top, shoes or scarf. Red is considered a power color and the eye sees the color instantly, so you must feel good and confident wearing it. If you have any hesitation about wearing the color and don’t feel good in it, then red is not for you. People will be able to tell if you don’t feel good in the color by the way you walk, talk and your non-verbal communication body language. Your inside will project your outside behavior. This is a color where your inside behavior must project a positive outside feeling.

2) Are you wearing the right shade?

There are different shades of red, so you will need to find out which shade works better with your skin complexion.

To discover the right red for you, you should decide if a warm red or cool red works best against your skin. When you look at a warm red and cool red side-by-side, you can clearly see the warm red has more yellow and the cool red has more blue.

By putting swatches up to your face you will determine which shade looks good on you. You will see and feel it instantly.

People who look best in warm reds are people who look better in warmer colors like browns, oranges, yellows, and rust or fall tones. People who look better in cool reds are those who look best in brighter jewel tones like magenta, royal blue, bright purples and black.

If you are still confused, think about metallic or silver or gold jewelry. If silver is most flattering on you, then most likely you look better in cool red. If gold looks better on you, then a warm red is the answer.

However, keep in mind there are some skin tones, especially of a darker hue, that can get away with wearing either a warm or cool red. I’m in this category and even though I wear a lot of cool red (with more blue in the shade), I can wear the warm red as well. Gold also looks great on my skin tone but silver is attractive too.

3) How much red should you wear?

Again, pay attention to how you FEEL wearing red. It’s important to consider all the points above and what your goal is for the day.

Since red is my favorite color, I wear it socially, in business, or when I need to be in a position of leadership and present new ideas. It evokes a feeling of confidence in me and others can see it. If, on the other hand, you need to sell or negotiate something you want, it may cause an uneasy feeling with the person you are dealing with.

The important thing to consider is how you feel when you wear it. Once this battle is conquered, you can figure out the right shade you should wear and the appropriate times to wear it.

Is RED a color that you wear often? Do you know if you are a warm or cool red? Have you been wearing the right shade of red?  Join the conversation below and leave your comments!

To your beauty,

For a complete Color Analysis, including a FREE color palette of your customized colors, contact Brenda at brenda@firstimpressionsmatter.com or call (707) 648-7991 to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.

When You Feel Good, You Look Good! FOUR Tips to Feel Better in 2017

If you feel good, you will always perform at your best. Here are 4 tips that will help you feel good AND look good!

1)  Stay positive and motivated every day!

Read positive books and listen to CD’s or podcasts to keep you in a positive frame of mind and ready to deal with life’s challenges. I purchased Tony Robbins’ Ultimate Edge CD’s and listen to them daily on my phone. After a 15-minute segment, I feel so empowered and happy. I also plan to attend Les Brown’s Live Your Dream motivation seminar on January 28, 2017 in Oakland, CA. I constantly find ways to stay motivated and inspired. I also read my Daily Word every morning and it helps with my spiritual growth.

Invest in yourself to keep on track with your goals and you will feel better. Having a grateful heart is another way. Everyday write down at least one thing you are grateful for. Living in gratitude will make your heart happy. By adding a few of these activities into your daily schedule, you will feel happier.

2) Have more “FUN”!

Funny how I’m starting to hear more and more people say they want to have more fun now. “FUN” has always been one of my values and a “must have” for landing the right job. I had to make sure I was having fun in whatever position I had so that I would truly love what I do each and every day.

If you want to have more fun, try taking a vacation, attending a music festival, taking dance lessons, going to a comedy show, inviting friends over for cards, or just plain laughing more.

Dr. Christine Northrup


When I read in Dr. Christine Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age, that fun is important and what keeps you ageless, I almost fell off my chair! It’s great to know that I’ve made sure to have fun in my life for a long time. Try having more fun this year.

3) Want a new look?

Would you like a new look for this year? Thinking about a new hair color or style? Perhaps you would like to change or update your style and find out what colors you should wear that complement your complexion. Wearing the right colors will give your skin an instant glow as well as wearing clothing that complements your body shape will make your figure look better. Brow shaping is another way to update a face. Do this and you will see how your face opens up and you will start receiving all kinds of compliments.

4) Move more and be good to your body!

There are lots of benefits to exercising, including sleeping better, preventing disease and thinking clearer; and it definitely makes your mind and body feel better. Exercising can include yoga, cardio, Zumba, meditating or whatever gets your body moving. Remember, the mind is important too, it keeps the body going.

If you are interested in Yoga, try Wanderlust.com. Currently, there is a free 21-day program you can join.

In Dr. Northrup’s book, she also explains how exercising sets off a chain reaction of feel-good chemicals in the body. One of the chemicals is called nitric oxide (not to be confused with nitrous oxide, used in dentistry). This molecule or gas is triggered by laughter, exercising, eating fruits and vegetables, and experiencing pleasure. You will have more energy and a sense of relaxation.

**What will you be doing in 2017 to have a “Feel Good Year”?**
Please share your ideas with us in the comment area below.

Let’s have a Feel Good Year!

For more information about your health and feeling better, I highly recommend Dr. Christine Northup’s book, go to http://amzn.to/2jcnXTV. This is now my reference book in order to stay on track and age naturally and gracefully.


For a complete Color Analysis, including a FREE color palette of your customized colors, contact Brenda at brenda@firstimpressionsmatter.com or call (707) 648-7991 to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.

5 Simple Steps to Declutter Your Closet

DeclutterIt’s a new year, so why not clear out your closet so you can find clothing that you forgot you had? You will also be able to create more outfits with less stuff. Did you know, according to statistics, you wear 20% of your wardrobe 80% of the time, which means there is a lot of dead weight hanging in the closet that never gets worn.

Here’s a way to declutter your closet, very simply. Follow this 5-step process to purge the items that no longer work for you and leave you with things in your closet that you love!

Step 1: Set aside some time, and get some supplies.

Set a date since this can take some time.  Gather the following supplies:

  • 3 boxes, (label the boxes – Donate, Sell, and Tailor)
  • Full-length mirror (to try clothes on)
  • Sharpie pen
  • Post-it notes to label boxes

Step 2: Start with a Category

You don’t need to take everything out of your closet and put it back again. This is an easier method than the standard.

Look at each category, i.e. dresses, jackets, tops, pants, etc. Go through each category and decide if you should let it go, stay, donate, sell or send it to the tailor. Once you decide, then add it to the proper box. Continue this process with each category.  Be sure to pull out anything that hasn’t been worn in two years and add it to a box.

Step 3: MAKE sure the items you keep fit properly.

You should try on the clothes intend to keep and make sure they fit properly. Create outfits with the remaining pieces to be sure you have items that go together. Only keep items that you LOVE, look good on you, and the colors are your season palette.


Step 4: Deal with the items that you tossed.

For clothing that you donate, decide where you would like to take your clothing. Goggle donation drop-off organizations that are close by, and be sure they give you a receipt for a tax write off. Also, remember to donate clothing to organizations that can really benefit, such as Dress for Success, that provide professional attire to women re-entering the workforce.

If you have items that are barley worn, you can probably receive money. Connect with organizations that that best fit your needs. Here are a few suggestions:

  • Poshmark
  • TheRealReal.com
  • Tradesy.com
  • Thredup.com

If you have items that need tailoring, referrals from your friends and family are the best, but you can also Google tailors to find a good one.

Step 5:  Breathe and bask in the glory of your new closet.

By following the steps above, you should now have clothing in your closet that you love, wear often, and you’re able to create several outfits. But most of all, your closet should be uncluttered!

Brew a cup of tea, put your feet up, and admire your new closet. You should feel a sense of relief and feel great for the new year.


For a complete Color Analysis, including a FREE color palette of your customized colors, contact Brenda at brenda@firstimpressionsmatter.com or call (707) 648-7991 to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.